Sex, or lack thereof
My husband and I did not have sex for THREE years. THREE. That's a long time, but there was a not-so-slow decline leading up to it. I always had a stronger drive than he did, but it didn't become a problem until it dwindled to once a month, then every few months, then every six months and... you get the idea.
Not only were we not having sex, but when I would try and initiate it, he would snap at me and push me away. I didn't realize it at the time, but it was eroding my confidence and making me resent him. I was forced to really examine our sex life and it wasn't pretty. It was me initiating 95% of the time. I felt ugly and undesirable. I felt unwanted.
The slow decline of our sex life happened to coincide with my forties. Really?!? If you are a woman in her forties, especially one with a high sex drive, you know I missed out.
When we hit the 8-month mark of no sex several months shy of my 50th birthday, I was desperate for a change. I couldn't live in a sexless marriage anymore. I didn't want to be roommates and that's where we were at. So I took action...
When sending tit pics leads to awkward conversation...
At the end of the 8th month of no sex between hubby and I, I decided I would do something I had never done. I created some suggestive pics and sent them to him while he was out of town at a conference. For my first try, they were not bad. I capitalized on my assets (chest) and minimalized my mom pooch. (List of pic ideas of you want to intrigue your person).
Anyway, I'm feeling pretty
good about what I'm sending, convinced that when he gets home, our sex life will reignite and all will be well.
Well... I was wrong. He GOT MAD at me for sending them. Told me to cut it out - other people at the conference could see his phone in looking at schedules, etc. Ummm - are the people in your texts? I hope not. And even then, we were married, so if I want to send a pic of me in his shirt with my pretty DD's showing, I damn well will.
To say I was shocked, hurt and mad is an understatement. And I know if you are reading this you are thinking: "He was totally cheating on her!" But that wasn't it - that's later in the story.
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